“Oh, bro, she didn’t bleed in the first go, maybe she is not a virgin!”
“She isn’t a virgin, that turned me off!”
“I didn’t bleed while having it for the first time, what will he think of me?”
These are some of the widespread thoughts that men and many a time women go through after their 1st intercourse. One thing that lies in common is the ‘constant judgment over the blood shed during her first sexual encounter!’
What if she doesn’t bleed? Does that make her impure? Or is she not trustworthy?
In a time where sex before marriage is commonplace, then why is a non-bleeding hymen not normalized?
Let us first address what a hymen is.
Hymen is a thin piece of tissue located at the opening of the vagina. A tissue which allows menstrual blood and normal secretions to exit the vagina.
Hymen naturally has a hole big enough for period blood to come out. But some are born with little hymenal tissue so it seems like they don’t have a hymen at all. Ideally, It is stretched open during the first vaginal sex, which might cause some pain or bleeding.
But this isn’t the case with everyone, making some uninformed people think that their partner has already lost their virginity or is lying about it. Why being a virgin is such a badge of honor is a topic for another day.
And there are other ways that a hymen can be stretched open: riding a bike, doing sports, or putting something in your vagina (like a tampon, finger, or a sex toy). Once your hymen is stretched open, it doesn’t grow back.
Renowned Mythologist and storyteller Seema Anand recently addressed this issue over her social media handle and asked all the Vagaina owners to own what they have and just not deal with the so-called “Gentlemen.”
Having said that, it’s always recommended to use ice-cold water to wash the genital area, and to avoid sexual intercourse after the painful process of tearing of the hymen.
It’s essentially about asserting ownership over your body: my vagina, my rules – men need permission before entry!
